You are forgetting the other side of the paradox - Hope.
Why do you think considering others and making requests of others is not focusing on yourself? Boundaries, no expectations and detachment keep this healthy.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
