Why can't people just go out to dinner or a movie or something? Why do they have to immediately start talking about a R? You haven't even got through one week of not grieving over your M, so you do not need to consider any other R.......just think about being out there dating more than one person. That is still legal, isn't it?
That's essentially what I meant, to be able to hang out with someone with no expectations, just have fun. She knows where I'm at and I've already told her that I'm not ready to date.
Vulnerable, yes to a point I suppose. I wouldn't say I was dependent for an ego boost, she more or less takes my mind off the situation. But I can see how it could be viewed that way. When we had first gone out on a date, a few months back, I had thought at the time that the M was completely over, no chance of survival. W was pushing for divorce, and making it no secret she was with someone else, and I, at the time, didn't want her back, excepted the inevitable. I had dropped the rope and wanted nothing more to do with her, until she started with the short lived reconciliation talks.
I haven't heard one word from W, except for kid issues, since I told her she could talk to me after she gets rid of the OM, which she claimed she was going to do. They work together, so there's just no chance of things getting better unless she really wants it to.
My biggest issue is I still don't know if I want her back.
M 32 WAW 34 D - 5 S - 4 PA 1/09 Moved out 3/09 She filed 5/09 90 Day Postponement 11/09 State Dismissed case 4/10 Moved home 9/10
