@Kett, @Lotus -- ah, but that's the point isn't it? Did love "resprout" -- i.e., spontaneously burst forth -- or did you choose?
(All of that, of course, was responsive to the notion that one can't "analyze" the waxing and waning of relationships -- a notion I obviously reject.)
---- In "real world" news, WAW has done the "withdrawal" thing -- she attended her first IC session night before last (yay!) and after relieving me of the babysitting duties at her house (the only night she could get an appt was a custody night) gave me a once-over of what she discussed.
We had a brief telconvo yesterday on my way to work, and she expressed no small amount of anger/frustration with some hurts or another I visited upon her during the 1990s. (?) That's okay -- whatever it takes to clear the underbrush, as DB Coach Jody says.
But now apparently, these grievances having been aired, some of her thoughts are continuing to disturb her and, upon reflection, she's apparently decided to shift back into 1-word-answer-mode to SP's email queries.
Okee-dokee; whatever works for her.
At this stage I'm more interested in her unpacking her sh*t than in anything like movement towards some new kind of relationship.
I think there's a lot of junk in her head that needs to be taken out and looked at -- not the kind of thing her family upbringing prepared her for -- and that's a more important task than anything necessarily B'ing the D related.
One example: She said, with no small amount of amazement, "I didn't realize how much anger I have inside me." About me, SP Himself? "You, me, my parents, my jobs, the boyfriend I had before college...." Wow. That's a lot of ground to cover in 50 minutes. "Don't I know it?"
So that's good, I think; we don't have to be in any particular hurry, and at the end of the day frankly I'd rather have WAW be xW and sound in mind, body, and spirit than have her be piecing-W and still carrying all this stuff around.
