I'm new wondering if this works...

[RedSoxFan]

DB says it's good to detach, know your boundaries, know you can live without them. Scared if I get too used to this feeling, I may prefer it.

It's OK if you prefer it because you should never go back to anything that's bad for you. That doesn't mean there isn't hope for your marriage, just not for the old marriage, right?

Do you ever wonder if D is for the best? At least the abuse stops. Or is this detachment and acceptance of separation a stem toward finding peace in oneself, which ultimately brings us closer together. Ugh.

Finding peace in oneself makes us whole. We can't successfully live with another if we can't live by ourselves. We can't successfully love another if we can't love ourselves. The point isn't whether D is right its that you'll be happy, healthy and strong no matter which path your marriage ultimately follows.