Since we are on the topic, men are also turned on by sexy negligees and costumes. This is a great time of year to buy them because Halloween is coming up. Victoria's secret has some very nice things, and I bought a little black lace teddy online at Fredericks of Hollywood that has some cut-outs in the front that my H found very erotic. A sexy little bra and panties and a 2 yard silk scarf to begin your little dance with work very well.