I'm already clueless about D(13). She's giddy about a new boyfriend (which the W and I discussed wouldn't get that title until he met my W). That makes me sad as I'm excluded from these pivotal moments in the girls' lives. I think it would be better and more fulfilling to be clueless and have a real family than be clueless and have a fractured one.

Thanks for the advice. I complain a lot about my R and spend a lot of time focusing on that, but missing out on the home life w/ my Ds is as painful, though in a different way.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)