Temp custody and visitation!!!! That will also establish a temporary support order the he can not change at his own verbatum.
when I suggested police, I didn't mean for them to be right there at the moment. I only had to go in the station once when my X was not there in person to exchange the kids. Other than that, just the simple fact we were in the station parking lot was enough to keep her in check.
Your plan to have someone walk you out sounds best fit for now.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I think also his keeping your funds "hostage" is another big No, No. Karen, I really wish I was there to help you, though I might find myself in trouble after I got done with your H. I almost had my black belt in Tae Kwon Do you know. Plus with you taking it, I bet we could teach him a thing or two!! Just had to get that out.
Really have someone along with you at the least and maybe change your plans a bit. His knowing your movements around town is creepy.
Take care, kat
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I almost had my black belt in Tae Kwon Do you know. Plus with you taking it, I bet we could teach him a thing or two!! Just had to get that out.
Ironic, I had been thinking for a few days now of studying a martial art. More for the inner control aspect of it, not so much the deadbeat X ass kicking portion.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Really have someone along with you at the least and maybe change your plans a bit. His knowing your movements around town is creepy.
kat
I think so too! I'm trying to figure out how he knows my schedule--he hadn't seen the kids at that point today, and I hadn't told the kids my plans or anything, so weird.
So, as expected X did show up at the church to get the kids. He came 10 minutes before S15's volunteer work was done, and then came and got D9. We were sitting outside doing her homework--today was the most beautiful weather ever here! I'm thinking he showed up early thinking I might just try to leave a few minutes early and avoid him. I never thought about sneaking around or pulling the kids out early or anything. I don't think like that.
I expected it this time, so I guess not as traumatic. D9 was freaking out a bit b/c she wasn't able to finish her math page-autistic kids like transition time, so they had an argument when they were leaving. I realized also today that X has been taking off work early the last 3 Tuesdays! Wonder how he fills out that leave slip??? I said nothing to X, just helped D9 get her stuff together in her pack and told the kids I loved them.
He left the custody/child support check in my car, so I am so relieved not to have to worry about eviction. Whew! When he was talking about holding it for another 10 days, I was so worried. I was hoping though that he would realize with all the kids have gone through, me getting evicted, not having money for groceries and gas would effect the kids, not just me. They've already gone through so much this past year or 2!
I talked to the pastor again about the mom's morning out job. I have to write up a rough draft outline this weekend. I'm going to visit another one in GA (field trip). I need to get my infant CPR and some other stuff like that.
I had that walking job this spring (4 hours a day) and that owner also offered to hire me this spring also if I don't have a job yet, so I could do that one plus the other job, but I think I may be getting too old for all that walking! Nice to know I have such supportive people in my life though.
Something I've noticed lately is everyone seems to come to me and confess all this deep, dark stuff in their life. I don't remember that happening so much before, but maybe going through this D has had something to do with that. I mean it's like almost nonstop people just confiding all this stuff to me. Has anyone else noticed this happening to them too? Just curious.
Ironic, I had been thinking for a few days now of studying a martial art. More for the inner control aspect of it, not so much the deadbeat X ass kicking portion.
You've been mentioning your way too much stress and martial arts are a great way to relieve stress. The X ass kicking portion is just frosting.
Karen, if your keeps the CS shenanigans up he's facing having his wages garnished. I'd throw that out there if he keeps this b-s up.
Don't they do that all the time after the D? He's a govt. employee, so I was thinking they take it from their paycheck like he does with other bills. Something to ask the L about. I think it'll be good to have less of a feeling of panic about him not sending the check if he's upset with me or whatever....
It may vary by state, but the court won't automatically force a garnishment unless the case warrants it. In my sitch as long as I am consistently on time, there's no grounds for garnishment.
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I think so too! I'm trying to figure out how he knows my schedule--he hadn't seen the kids at that point today, and I hadn't told the kids my plans or anything, so weird.
I think you'd better check your car for a hidden cellphone or other GPS device!
After all the talking we have done with Puppy, we should have thought of that one! Check your car Karen. So was he all smug again? I know it was awful still that he is such an @ss but hopefully this is the last time. The thing is with this type of behavior, I am wondering what he might do if things don't go his way in court. Please express this to your L when you see her today.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I've discussed that kind of thing before with the L. I think she was saying restraining order at the court or something like that. I'll have to ask her again, that conversation was a year ago or something.
I did see him walking up to get D9 all macho man the way he was walking like don't mess with me. This time I didn't look at him, was focused on helping D9 and really didn't want to see the look on his face too. Going off to see my L today; she has a personality like X so it will be good to get over with...
