I'm worried about the effect on our kids. I'm not choosing D or separation. I want my kids to know that I do not want to be away from them, but don't want to inadvertently blame my W for things. I just want an honest way to communicate that I want to be with them but not make them feel bad about my W or me.

Any help on that front? Any experiences that could help?

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)