A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

Oh dear. "My" kind of show?

<Dia sets out the smelling salts for the gents>

Assuming it's ok to give this sort of advice here, this is what my H likes about it, in no particular order.

Arch your back

Let your head roll and toss

Don't be shy about letting him see what your fingers are doing. In fact, make a point of it.

Go slow, let it build, be playful, tease yourself

It's ok to close your eyes if it helps you get away from the strangeness of being watched, but lock eyes with him at least once

Let him *hear* how good it feels.

Don't be surprised if your H can't resist joining in at some point.

If this is really that new for you, also don't be surprised or disappointed if either one of you calls a halt because it's a little too much. If so, try again in a few days/weeks/whatever.

Don't be afraid to do things just how you like them. He will be covertly looking for pointers on how to touch you.

Be prepared for a possible pullback afterwards. Pushing the envelope does that sometimes even in a strong and stable R. If it happens, most likely he's processing - esp. the idea of 'is he really comfortable with just how much he liked that?' Also possible that it might happen to you as well, so just be aware.

Above all, if he does pull back, DO NOT take it as any sort of negative on you.