Give it to me straight!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

"God may be leading you out of a situation that he feels you should not be in.

God doesn't lead you out of your covenant M and into a non covenant M. God doesn't lead someone to go cheat 55 times either. He doesn't lead people into sin

This is exactly right. God hates divorce. no matter what. But unless we all agree that the Bible is the "rulebook", then arguing about it doesn't change anything. It's like abortion. Unless everyone believes that the life begins at conception, or that it doesn't, you can't argue it.

But as a christian, and believe in the Bible, it says let no man break apart what God has joined together. God only gave a declaration of divorce to moses because of their hardened hearts.

Of course I have not kept up with this thread, and in fact, I've only posted once when I thought I heard things were reconciling, so I do not know what has happened since. I am not for letting someone continue to commit adultery over and over, but I do believe that everyone can change. I believe that whole-heartedly and I believe that everyone has their own "time-frame" to which they may do this. And although we can't make anyone change, we have a lot of influence on whether they will make the choice to or not.

Everyone has to make the choice to continue fighting for their spouse (which is what I believe God does call us to do) or to give up fighting for their spouse. We are all human, and though I would love to see everyone fight till the end, I understand that it is a difficult road.

Just because someone doesn't file for D though, doesn't mean they are letting their children see them being treated wrong and their children will grow up doing the same thing. It is about boundaries and consequences, and sticking to them. It may mean that he is not allowed to live there unless he does such and such, or whatever it may be. But when she makes these boundaries out of respect for herself, this shows her children healthy behavior.

anyways, sorry I don't know the full story, and I will continue to pray for all those here that are fighting. I know it is extremely difficult, it is one of the most difficult experiences, but we can all come out of this better people for us and for our families.