My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Good point. I actually knew him fairly well before we actually started "dating" because we had worked together for awhile. As for how he treats his mother--well, everyone ignores her. She barely exists. In 18 years of knowing her, I have yet to have a real conversation with her. So it's kinda hard to judge from that, in this situation. Retrospect is painful for me--there were so many abandonments, including a couple of big ones before we ever got married. I just marvel at my cluelessness. But had we not married, I wouldn't have my wonderful daughter. And no, that's not why folk should get married, but if it's all I have left--it's pretty damn good.

I'm feeling the need, as I do periodically, to write a note of closure to my former inlaws (all of them). I never got to say anything altho I tried to enlist the aid of the ones I was closest to during the very first couple of days of madness. It won't change a thing, but there are just some things I need to say. And if I've lost them anyway (and they are my only family) I feel like I have a right to say what I need to say--such as how much this hurt, how I didn't see it coming, how in spite of all they may have been told it wasn't my idea in the least, how painful it is to lose my nieces and nephews. I've let the urge pass several times in the past, and I'm not sure why. But I feel like I am entitled to speak my truth. Thoughts? Has anyone done this?