3 years of S, OW gone - What do I want?

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SH
Im sorry to hear that your H continues to seek poor choices and old gf

I dont know
I think you need to decide waht is best for you now
our spouses are avoiders
some will file- others balk
you can wait
you can ask for D talk
You can email
You can file
probably though to be as amlicable as possible, you may want to wait for your H to put some time aside
you can also seek L to get advice so you know where you stand ( im not sure if yiou already did that)
I dont believe D can flow well anyway b/c L will have to be involved and that tends to stir crap up especially for the H
It is a difficult process at least it weas for us but we also had the business involved which was so hard to deal with
hang in
you will get thru this