Thanks, Kett. What works for me very well, humility-wise, is to remember (and say to my wife frequently) that I have a ton of faults, too -- they're just different ones than hers are. A lot gets made in our family of her messiness and of course the infidelity "thing" is still there, unspoken, but so what? So I'm a world-class procrastinator, pouter, gotta-be-right-all-the-time knucklehead.
So yeah, that helps.
You hit the nail on the head with the "father figure" thing. I mean, who the hell wants to have hot monkey sex with their FATHER???
