Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[confusedinpa]

Stuck

I can totally relate to the physical impacts of such a shock. Unfortunately, I know many people here can attest to the same.

I think what everyone here, my friends and my therapist really beat into me that helped was to stop trying to fix the "relationship/marriage" problem. Focus on what you can control, yourself.

I know it took me a loooong time to understand that. I had tried to fake it (i.e. working out, going out with friends, etc.) but my mind would always be racing on what can I do to attract her back.

My therapist reminded me of what others had posted here as well - the person who cares about the relationship the least has the most power.

It really seems counter-intuitive to take that approach but I think over the last several weeks, my WAW sees that I've really stopped caring about the relationship nor am working on it. I've really been focusing on me and my own life - not just my life with my boys.

So stop trying to fix the problem. Nothing you say will convince her. She will have to change her own mind. Now you have to work on you.

Sound familiar? These are the things you have been harping on my threads since Jan!

You do need to talk to someone to handle the stress. If you have a therapist, use them. If not use your friends. If you can't FB me and I'll talk with ya. You've always been there for me, as well as many others here. It's time for us to return the favor.

Just remember Coach's phrase - You can handle it!

Be the enlightened man!