I agree it's important to specify between being a nice guy/gal and a doormat. We want to be mature, respectful, and decent, but we don't want to be giving the idea to the WAS that we will put up with anything and everything to have them back. It's a delicate line to walk, but an important one I think. It goes along with detachment. Being able to not react to them and say and do things that aren't in our own best interest or aligned with our integrity, but also not to be a cold and withdrawn jerk.
It takes a lot of courage to continue to stand with pride and be respectful when the WAS often isn't. It's also important to be able to walk away and say enough is enough - still with dignity, not vengance or neediness.
Hope,
I agree with you completely regarding the above. Thank you!
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
