Have you talked to her about any of this? You feel what you feel and holding back so much may not let it show properly. I do believe you are over thinking this Rob. But then I do that sometimes myself so we will just call the kettle black and make us even! LOL
I bet you are a nervous wreck trying to keep yourself in check. I say talk with her to see if you are even close to the same page.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory