Returning from the land of excuses...

[ClingingToHope]

I equate this statement with what his XW told him about his size. I wonder, and although I know I am wrong, I still wonder if the reason he had an affair was because I am lousy in bed and he was left unsatisfied.

Part of me really wants to ask him this.

Part of me is really scared of the answer.

What do I do?

I've learned an offhand comment never goes away -- unless someone just chooses to forgive it. I said once I was worried my W would become as big as her mom. I was 28 maybe and still in my "all about me" phase.

She's kept that bottled up inside for years and trotted it out when we were fighting earlier this year. I'm long past image issues. I love every size 14 inch of her, but it may not ever matter again.

I'm not a lawyer, but I do remember a key lesson in law school. Never ask a question you don't know the answer to.

Final thought. I don't know any guy who ever had "bad" sex. That's just a justification for a new romance. It'll get stale there as well.