How do I keep from screwing up??????

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Steph - (Wo)Man I sure know how you feel! So sorry you guys are "separated", I am in a similar situation. I keep thinking that one day my WAW will come to her senses and realize just what she has. It is SO hard not to ask for a hug. I mean, it is only a hug, for God's sake! So I get "hugs of compassion" because she knows it's not easy on me for her to want to leave me and cause so much pain to our family. Nice (feels like a "warm" hug) but I feel like a wimp and think she just pities me. In reality, I pity her as she is just so lost in her MLC and trying to find out who she is, etc. Unfortunately, she listens to all of her divorced/separated girlfriends (the "She-Woman-Man-Hater-Club") who all have her convinced that she is "caving" in if she backs out of going through with a divorce. She keeps trying to be strong enough to leave. In reality, it takes more strength to stay, but she doesn't see it that way. At least we are still in the same house, though only as room-mates.