My W did indeed help the kids get and wrap b-day presents for me, which was very nice, including framing a little poem my daughter wrote for me. She was quite distant herself though. She gave me an awkward hug and happy b-day.
She does seem to want to test the waters with us though. We had a meeting at my son's school, but it ended early and we both had a little time before we had to be anywhere. I asked her if she wanted to get a drink, and she said sure. We had a nice time talking and catching up. Afterwards, on the walk out to our cars she asked me if I wanted to go to brunch Sunday with her and the kids to celebrate her mom's b-day. I said yes. The next day she had the kids call and ask if I wanted to go pumkin picking with them after brunch. Again I said sure. I probably should have played a little harder to get, but it felt right to just say yes.
Brunch went well, but the pumpin picking had to be cancelled because it was raining. She left our son with me so we could watch football together and she took our daughters home with her. Then she started texting me about the football games, which led to some playful texting back and forth. The late game she wanted to watch wasn't televised locally, so I took a chance and asked if she wanted to go grab a couple beers and watch the game at a local sports bar. I arranged for her mom to watch the kids. She said she was in her PJs in bed with the girls, but ok, she'll go. She got them all dressed and brought the girls to her mom's then we met at the bar. When we got there she said she had a headache. After just a little while she said her headache was gone and we were having fun. Hardly watched any football, we again just had a great time talking and joking. Neither of us initiated even the slightest physical contact, although we sat a mere two feet right in front of each other the whole time.
So I have to ask myself, why would she go out with me to the sports bar? She was home in her PJs, warm in her bed, and she had a headache. She had to get herself and the girls dressed, go back out into the rain, and drop the girls off at her mom's. She wasn't just using the opportunity to see the game, since we hardly watched it. We talked the entire time, barely took our eyes off each other. She just seems so hungry to spend time with me, but she is so tentative about it. She is still so closed to me though. I don't know how much OM is still influencing this situation. She is acting very different than how she did when she and OM were going strong. She had walls up everywhere then and acted very aloof and distant, ignoring me most of the time. She's not distant now, and many walls are down, but she's still closed off. I hate to admit, she's probably closed because she knows her feelings for OM are inside there, and she knows I don't want to see them.
