Thank you so much! It's actually great that I'm getting men's point of view here! I think it's so wonderful that you two would be, or at least would have been willing to give your exW a chance with counseling. Mine isn't receptive to that yet. He told me that he feels that he asked me to choose him or the other M, and I chose the other. That is just the way he remembers it, and I have to deal with the feelings the way he remembers them. (What he said, as I remember it, was stop seeing the other M and I told him that even if I did, the emotional stuff would still be there and I didn't know if I could do that at that point, because the emotional stuff would interfere, and that's what he called choosing and it's when he moved out, all in one day).
In seeing my present counselor, I have got to the bottom of my issue, a huge issue for me, and that is "the fairy tale doesn't exist (Psych stuff) and what I realized was it my ExH that was the fairy tale, when I remember all the things he has done for me and I thought he did those things because he had to, not because love had anything to do with it. (we had a lot of outside pressures against us) I can clearly see why he feels slapped! I just don't know when we will get to that point when I can really tell him how I feel and that he will believe me. He did say he wants to see me on my own for a while. Another question is if he doesn't want me back, why is he so sad? Wouldn't working it out make his sadness go away, if indeed he's sad because we're no longer together?
BTW, Disney World was his idea, and having a beer at his house was also his idea. He knows what time I pick up our son, and he wasn't done giving him dinner, so that's why I stayed a while.
After we talked the last time and he told me not to wait for him, I told him that maybe we shouldn't visit like we have been because I still love him and if that's how he felt, I needed to protect myself and not let myself get those mixed messages. Not sure if that was the right thing to do? However, I did change my mind about Disney World, our son would like both of us to take him and why rob him of that..
