NC with wife for one week

[Ready2Change]

I do believe that my W wants me to be there for her and to show her that I do care and can do it without being upset with her.

Great! Are you to the point where you can love her unconditionally and take all her garbage without taking it personally?

I want to tell her of the things that kept us going in a circle and by some of the things that she said the other night I can tell that she was starting to think along the same lines.

I feel it is more important for you to SHOW her. I have a hard enough time changing my behavior, let alone explaining to someone else that they need to change and actually have them listen, especially MsR2C.

That is also what helped me to realize what was going on.

As long as one person can step out of the box and change the interactions, that is all that matters. The relationship has to change. WE have the responsibility to make our personal changes because we can SEE the negative effects of our subconscious behavior and WE know that we need to stop doing what does not work.