Newbie (again)

[mishka422]

It's understandable that you were feeling rejected about her not needing you to do anything to help her anymore because OM is there to those things. But, by your own admission, he is pretty well useless where the practical things are concerned. What exactly does he do?

In relation to that, not long after xh left I found that my gutters were totally clogged and I wasn't about to try climbing on the roof to clear them myself. I met a super nice man in my divorcecare group who is a firefighter. He and I worked something out in trade....he came to my house and cleared my gutters, brought his kids to play with Marc and I made him two homemade lasagna's (one for dinner that night, one that I froze for him to take home and cook later). Xh came by the house, wanted to 'do me a favor' and clear the gutters. HA! Joke on him! He wanted to know who did it for me and I just batted my eyes at him and told him "I have my ways." You should have seen the steam coming out of his ears!!