Sometimes the best advice is being quiet and just listening. Many people don't really want or need the advice, they just want to know that some one is hearing them.
On the pain subject..yes the MLC'ers feel pain. Maybe even more so than the WAS's. Example-My wife is very emotional and during a conversation a month or so ago discussing her moving out she broke down in tears and said "This hurt so bad! I don't want to hurt you or the kids, but I hate being here so much...I am so confused".....so yes they do feel pain. Maybe not as visible as my wife, but they do.
I love what Mach said above...it is right on for the stage you are at. There are a lot of ways to handle it...the choices are yours to make and live with.
