Well, day 2 of the bandaged head is going well and I'm looking forward to the removal of the stitches tomorrow. Anyway, at least there is still no discomfort, but the black eye is settling in a bit. I'll look macho, if nothing else, right?
I'm posting today, not b/c there is anything earth-shattering or new, but b/c I've been continuing to process everything shared here as well as what's been going on w/me and I did realize something last night that I think is important that I make sure to do:
"Don't get any deeper than she is getting right now, or make sure I match the level she's at w/our relationship."
I've seen this in David DeAngelo's columns, in a column from Christian Carter for women called "Catch Him, Keep Him" as well as from other sources. I think gucciloafers even mentioned it here and the more I see it the more it resonates.
See, what I'm getting is if I'm more ready to move forward than she is, it could make things uncomfortable for her and thus tend to turn her off. On the other hand, if I'm able to be patient w/myself and exert some self control over my emotions, then I can match her and not come across as either needy, overbearing, or some ugly combination of the two.
So, that's what I'm trying to do - match her level of intensity - right now and see where it takes us. I'll also be able to use the time to continue to build a healthier me. I don't want to push her away by being too intense and "wanting" a long-term R more than she does.
It seems to make some sense to me. Am I making any sense to anyone else? Ladies, what do you think? Am I on the right track or over-analyzing a bit?
Ladies, what do you think? Am I on the right track or over-analyzing a bit?
