Well, if you figure out a way we can anything, I can safely say, don't be worried about calling upon us.
As far as the letter, I can't tell you how many of those I've written, read, re-written, read, edtied, re-written, over an dover, and then a condensed straight to the point without accusation or showing my own weaknesses made it's way to XW.
Granted I haven't given a personal letter to her in over a year now, but it helped.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11