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It's not giving up, it's letting go of the outcome. Do you know how to catch a monkey? Put a nut in a box with a hole just little smaller than the monkey's hand. The monkey will grab the nut in his fist and not be able to pull it out. His stubborness in holding onto the nut allows him to be captured. To be free all the monkey has to do is let go of the nut. Some monkeys have to learn the hard way though.


Originally Posted By: Japanese folklore

Sarumo kikara ochiru

Even the monkey falls from the tree.
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You can be a DB'er par excellence..make the greatest strides in personal growth....and sometimes you just can't save a marriage because you can't CONTROL SOMEONE ELSE. Letting go.....is the best singular piece of advice here. Detach.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;