For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

Hi,
Thank you...I really felt great that I didn't allow the tantrum to ruin our morning. And I didn't feel like screaming at my H that if he would just come home and be with us that I would have more patience. I felt more in control of the situation, than the situation controlling me. And that felt great. Nothing works better than a deep breath and some logic to really handle stressful things.

I haven't tried to talk to him about anything for a little over a week. But, before that I was really bugging him about us. Yet, nothing was ever really discussed bc he always says that he doesn't know or that he's not going to fight about it/talk about it. Soooo frustrating. My intention was never to fight, but instead to openly communicate and get answers and information. We've never been good communicators.

He refuses to talk about anything - he's a WAS and that's how he "deals" with things - walks aways, ignores, refuses to talk or acknowledge. It seems like he doesn't even think he's done anything wrong. And no, in the past, I did not keep my voice calm - I was so frustrated that he wouldn't give me ANY info that I got angry, cried, and/or said things that were not nice.

So how long do I go with this no conacting him stuff? I'm only on 9 days. Do I understand this correctly - I should continue not contacting him, take a few hrs to answer his texts, GAL, be a little mysterious? Well how long before any type of comment or discussion is again brought up about us, counseling and so on?

ha...Bluerain - you are my GAL motivator. : ) As of right now, I just have plans for my newphew's football game. But, it's early in the week.