It's tricky, isn't it! I think with your kids so young it would be best to not have activities with all of you together, for the time being, at least. You can absolutely be cordial when you do see each other, and participate together in things like parent conferences when the kids are not there. I Just think the mixed messages might be too much for them. At the least, I would have sat you and Dan on the ends, and the kids in between. At least that would give the visual of mom and dad apart, not mom and dad together.
