Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Dia]

Interesting, that often leads to the IC "how do you feel" mode of advice which is pretty precarious ("Oopsy, I felt that way two weeks ago but don't "feel" that way today").

I'll go with Pups interpretation.

Her point with me - and I'm not intending to generalize to SP here - wasn't to travel the 'go with your feelings' route but to break my habit of stuffing and avoiding feelings in general, especially the negative ones. The first step, so she sez, was to realize that I was having a feeling and to figure out what it was. That was actually hard sometimes as there were feelings I was unable to name when I was having them, in part due to 'not being allowed' to feel or express those things in my FOO.

She also specifically told me NOT to make decisions based on feelings, esp. the negative ones. "Do not make decisions when you're emotional. Do nothing. When you're not emotional and you have some distance, *then* you can make a decision."