Divorced and want to reconcile...

[JMC]

would you let your ex know that or have you?

I forgot to address this part of your question. I mentioned it several times. We actually did attend a Retrouvaille weekend together, but unfortunately she was too far gone in MLC land by that time. After that weekend she told me that communication was not our problem, and she proceeded to give me the ILYBNILWY speech and moved out the next weekend.

Even after she moved out, we still would get together and act as if we were a happily married couple. I avoided R talks for the most part, but we did meet for dinner one night after a mutual friend informed her that I was viewing her emails. I came clean and told her all I knew. She was embarrassed. I asked if she would consider counseling, but she was not receptive.

Two months after that we met to get my cell phone in my own name and I proposed that option once again, but was met with the same result. At that time she mentioned that we needed to get the paper work started. I remember looking her in the eye as we were sitting in my car and telling her that she would regret this someday. She answered that she did not know how she would feel five years down the road. We then had our last kiss and she got out of my car for the last time. All of this was/is quite unnecessary in my opinion.