Not sure if this was the right approach or not. But after she said yesterday morning: "I have no love left for you, no warmth. The changes are too little too late." I said you know what if you have no intention of really trying, don't go. If you are already gone in your mind and if you have any compassion left for me, don't string me along. Trying to put on a show for your family/friends that you tried. This weekend shouldn't just be a checklist for you to say, I tried and it didn't work.
Last night she said that she needs to think about for a couple days and she will let me know. I guess by the end of the week, I will no one way or the other if she truly wants to give it a try.
Maybe I am pushing things too much. Maybe I should have kept a low profile and just went. But I felt if she didn't really have her heart into it, it would just be her checking it off a list.
Almost exactly what I'm going through right now. My W seems to be "faking" her way through MC without giving much effort or having much hope. I got the "don't love you that way anymore" and "no warmth" too. I haven't come to the point of issuing an ultimatum yet but I'm having the same doubts you described. I think she might be going through the motions of MC just so she can say she tried & look like the "good guy" in the end. In the meantime, I am being strung along & basically tortured. I wish you the best & applaud you for having the courage to confront your W. I'm not at that point yet.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
