8 months into it, first post

[EJohn]

Her mother made a comment to me (back when she was leading me on with the depression lie) that she thought she was bipolar. I never know which person I'm going to talk to. She was married once before, and walked out after a few months. No one, not even her parents know why. One of her good friends (well maybe not so good anymore since she started hitting on every guy her friend was interested in, and who has been talking to me a lot lately) said that her first husband was supposedly a great guy. I my W early on what happened with her first marriage, and she would never tell me, or just be real vague. I think she would have left me sooner if it wasn't for the kids. But hard to tell. I still have the email she sent me May 08 where she says I'm the best husband, and that she could never see herself by happy with anyone else. Of course when the affair came out, she's suddenly been unhappy for years.

When I had started dating someone, I was under the mind frame that it was over, and was moving on with my life. Everything was going well. (then W started the R talks, and I felt like I was using this person) We only had one official date, but we were talking everyday and had been planning future ones. She doesn't live near us, so I don't think my W has any idea that I had dated. That's why I thought maybe her friend could "spill the beans", but I don't want to use her. Although I think she'd do it. She's still a bit mad because the W was using her when her affair started, claiming she was out with her, etc. Her friend was very upset about that.