Divorce statistics aside, I still hold that modern thinking revolves around "What makes me feel good." You are arguing divorce statistics, and I'm simply searching for a root cause as to WHY the divorce statistics are what they are - beyond the obvious reason that all human beings are flawed.
Quite honestly, I think the core reason for divorce whether 1889 or 1989 usually can be peeled back to reveal selfishness - whether by an LBS or WAW - said selfishness just manifests itself in different ways. In 1889, I would put forth that most marriages consisted of Cowboy Jim catching Schoolgirl Susy's eye, and then they got hitched. In 2009, people will LIVE together for 5 years, have kids, then decide to get married, and then divorce. If you can't figure each other out after 5 years, then is there any hope for the human race?
Going forward, I owe you an apology, SP. Although I've enjoyed this discourse and delving into what makes all of DBing tick, I didn't mean to distract from your situation.
Whether we agree or not on specific issues, what counts is that there is perhaps a light at the end of the tunnel for you and the inimitable Missez. My kudos to you for making an effort at your marriage, and I sincerely wish the best of luck to both of you.
