So glad to hear that C went well GIMA. We have our 3rd or 4th one tomorrow morning together. This is the first one after giving the C our Imago "homework". Not sure if that will be a topic of conversation since we are having an issue with out oldest in his new school. I assume the majority of our time will be spent trying to figure that scenario out.
I am really glad to hear that things are progressing well.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
So glad to hear that C went well GIMA. We have our 3rd or 4th one tomorrow morning together. This is the first one after giving the C our Imago "homework". Not sure if that will be a topic of conversation since we are having an issue with out oldest in his new school. I assume the majority of our time will be spent trying to figure that scenario out.
I am really glad to hear that things are progressing well.
Still "miles to go before I sleep."
Is your W in MC with you? That's a good sign if so.
The day the bomb happened she was "done". After talking a little longer I asked if she would be willing to try MC together. She agreed. I got a referral and setup the appointment for the first day they had available after the bomb (approx 2 days) and have gone a few times.
It is a good sign but I also have to be realistic. I know a friend that agreed to MC just so that the D would be "easier" on her H when it happened. I just have to have faith that she is there for the right reasons (e.g. improve herself, improve myself, improve our R and M).
My main motivation is to improve myself, if the R or M improves then great but if not then I am a better person still.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
The day the bomb happened she was "done". After talking a little longer I asked if she would be willing to try MC together. She agreed. I got a referral and setup the appointment for the first day they had available after the bomb (approx 2 days) and have gone a few times.
It is a good sign but I also have to be realistic. I know a friend that agreed to MC just so that the D would be "easier" on her H when it happened. I just have to have faith that she is there for the right reasons (e.g. improve herself, improve myself, improve our R and M).
My main motivation is to improve myself, if the R or M improves then great but if not then I am a better person still.
Great attitude. Improving yourself is THE key. All leads to more confidence and a healthy self image. Better H and better father.
Pretty much what you guys (Coach in particular) recommended. He agreed with letting W into more of my "rooms" (again, tahnks Coach) and thought more dating activity would be a plus.
First of all, congrats on the great C session and the new goals. Sounds really positive and I agree that these small movements are timely. Keep up the good work!
Secondly, an aside - what is this idea of "rooms?" just curious.
Coach told me a few weeks ago that my W may not be coming closer to me B/c I wasn't opening up to her and letting her into all of the "rooms" of my house so to speak. Imagine each room is a different part of my life - work, kids, play, dreams, fears, etc. The more rooms I allow W to access, the more rooms my W might allow me to access.
Feel like I have renewed energy this morning. Really pouring on the joking and light conversation around W. Last night was positive. And, it was great to hold her hand, even if just during the blessing.
Couldn't work in a touch of her shoulder or arm this morning. First, morning has never been her time. Second, it's just too busy getting two kids ready for school and out the door. I'm sure my two are the ONLY kids who don't wake up all dressed, shiny and ready to face the day!
Already got an email this am from W about the EPCOT Food & Wine Festival - we will be there in a couple of weekends. Can't wait.
Feel like I have renewed energy this morning. Really pouring on the joking and light conversation around W. Last night was positive. And, it was great to hold her hand, even if just during the blessing.
Couldn't work in a touch of her shoulder or arm this morning. First, morning has never been her time. Second, it's just too busy getting two kids ready for school and out the door. I'm sure my two are the ONLY kids who don't wake up all dressed, shiny and ready to face the day!
Already got an email this am from W about the EPCOT Food & Wine Festival - we will be there in a couple of weekends. Can't wait.
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Why did it change?
Never forget this is all in your control. You will be tested.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Feel like I have renewed energy this morning. Really pouring on the joking and light conversation around W. Last night was positive. And, it was great to hold her hand, even if just during the blessing.
Couldn't work in a touch of her shoulder or arm this morning. First, morning has never been her time. Second, it's just too busy getting two kids ready for school and out the door. I'm sure my two are the ONLY kids who don't wake up all dressed, shiny and ready to face the day!
Already got an email this am from W about the EPCOT Food & Wine Festival - we will be there in a couple of weekends. Can't wait.
What changed?
Who changed?
How did it change?
Where did it change?
Why did it change?
Never forget this is all in your control. You will be tested.
Yesterday, one of my sister's emailed me, and our other sib's, about having pictures taken of our respective families (spouses and kids included) that we will have framed and given to my step-father as a Christmas present this year.
At first, I was thinking nope, can't do that. Then, after a lucid thought, I realized there was no reason not to. I'm not in LRT mode anymore, at least I don't think so. It's just a picture.
Anyone have any ideas about this? My thought is just to tell W this is something the family would like to do, so let's do it.
