I will tell you this, and this is a pattern that i have noticed here.
Around the 5-7 month mark, there is a period of time where we find another source of anger from within ourselves as standers...
It usually centers around acceptance that there really isn't a magic pill to fix this.
The reality of what is happening slaps us in the face.
That is the time when we really start to detach. Don't let that build inside of you too much, it is normal.
What you will find is that, after some hard thinking, you will realize that what is going on IS a gift to you also, and you will soon find a peace from within yourself that allows you to take another step forward for you.
A LOT of people don't make it through this next step you are looking at. This is the time when your vows may become skewed and you say that you deserve better and walk away being done.
YOU have decisions that you can make, and you realize that for the first time in a while.
This will be a time when you take another look into the mirror, and only then, if you decide to continue this path, will your changes "officially" become for you , and not to fix the old marriage.
This is a defining period for you and your relationship.
Yes....You do deserve better, but guess what ?
So does he....You BOTH deserve your vows....
Sickness AND health...
Spending a nickel here.....But..
It's easy to be good with things when it is all puppy dogs and rainbows.....the other is the HARD stuff...
It's okay to take some time for you and reflect, it is normal and neccessary....DO IT
