Maybe it would be more accurate to say that I would not want my H to come back only, or even mostly, for the practical stuff. Our marriage got to the point of being almost all stay at home, no fun, no vacations, little sex, boredom. It just got way out of kilter rather than a blend of the two.
Oh yeah, I totally get that. You want to know that he wants you for you. And he should because you're awesome. And you deserve the marriage full of all the fun, vacations, sex and excitement you want. I think that the book was just pointing out that you are in a context and you can't be completely separated from it.
And yes, I agree with your thoughts on being a soft landing if the affair fails. Because it's human nature to take the path of least resistance and cake eating is just that.
Originally Posted By: Dudess
They make me feel good and my ex-H told me they show off my ass great too.
Yay! I hope you had fun at the event too.
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