8 months into it, first post

[EJohn]

So here's an excerpt from the last R type email on 9/14, before I mentioned the OM being at her house.

"I am going back to the Dr on Thursday. Not Dr Tony but to the woman that prescribed those meds for me. I do not feel unstable or anything but I really think they would help with my emotions and to keep them in check. They get real flip floppy at the "period" times of the month. I tend to cry a lot and become very distant with ppl around me, kind of shut down. Being with the kids helps me during those weeks , they make me very happy even when S can be hard to handle. He has really become my rock in all this, he is a very special little boy.
Anyway, this is going to take lots of time and I need to clear the ppl out of my life that dont need to be there. I am aware there are a lot of changes I need to make."

I really didn't notice the "going to take lots of time" comment. Maybe that means it's going to take time to deal with the OM, to eliminate him out of her head before she can work on us? To me I would think you just tell the person to go away, but I've read enough on here to know that's not the case. Maybe I jumped the gun again. I know it has to be on her timeline, and not mine. The not knowing if she's being honest is the worst.

She has the kids this week, so there shouldn't be any contact with her until Wednesday evening, and then only briefly. Were going to a court mandated class for Children in the Middle next week Thursday. It's a three hour class, and it's an hour drive. We're riding together (so 5 hours together), so I guess we'll see what next week brings.