@alive - I will accede to your request, though I will point out that I refer to your situation because it is one with which I am familiar - and in the instant case I was actually referring to your intervention up-thread in which you objected to WAHs being left out of the discussion.
Well friend, admittedly, women are complicated.
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@JonF - I completely reject this "life is all about easy today" meme.
Now this is fodder for great conversation. When life was about survival, people had more grit. Lower expectations...sad to us but quite healthy in some ways. Look at how many are self-medicating in one way or another. We all feel entitled to "it all". We all feel slighted with less than "it all".
Can we please for Pete's sake, have "equality" for women without killing all semblance of chivalry and subtlety?? I know I seem off topic here but it is all in the same vein.
We do want easy. We want easy work, easy relationships, easy money, easy access and when we don't get it, we pop pills and throw tantrums.
Sorry but it seems an ailment specific to our modern culture. Not that it has ever been fab...alas, those pesky problems arise in every time and place but we are in a very indulgent, overstimulated and narcissistic phase.
With regard to marriage, I was just trying to relay to a friend who is terrified of getting married and suggested it is outdated and someday there will be no such institution, that the broader social impact is significant. She seemed very moved when I described the loss of what is really modern tribes. Our kids, raised with no modicum of predictability or modeled loyalty are like emotinal nomads...marriage and family can serve as such a unique source of connectedness and security. I think losing that value is an enormous loss both individually and collectively. More "unintended consequences" for our oh so evolved culture. But what do I know?
