My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Yep, here's to smart kids. Of course, you know our x's will say we've poisoned their minds against the abandoning parent. But who really cares what they think anyway?!

This was SUCH an enlightening conversation, and sort of led to several other very enlightening conversations as I processed it. And I'm coming to the conclusion (fleeting, I'm sure) that I'm not such a loser after all, perhaps, but that I am far stronger and wiser than all those folks who abandoned me sorta all at once because they're (and I quote) "such tools, and worse than tools--wedges: the simplest of tools!" Which leaves me no less alone than I was before, but at least I'm not surrounded by people whose love I'm trying to earn while they're simultaneously figuring out how to discard me from their lives while still looking fabulous.

And xH--what a weak, limited, foolish man. I fell for the charming extrovert who was trying to get into my pants, and spent the next 15+ years wondering where he went and why he left behind this guy who was so limited and so apathetic about me, and trying to figure out how to earn the return of the one I fell in love with. As it turns out, and I think I was coming to this realization but didn't know what to do about it--the limited, weak, narcissistic guy was the real Frank.

But I was no spring chicken when I got married. How on earth do I keep from falling into the same trap ever again? There's the real question. 'Cuz I've done it twice now. Will I ever learn?