Some Fat-fingered responses via mobile, in reverse order.
If it please the Court, my esteemed colleague Mr Tails has advanced the notion that "love is a feeling." Yet we have seen introduced into evidence throughout the boards the proposition that those silly Walkaways are hung up on the idea that love is a "feeling" when in fact it is a choice - one ought not wait for the "feeling" - pshaw! - but must simply choose. Well which is it? Because if it is a choice then it is indeed (inherently) quantifiable - one will "love" a "little bit more" with each passing day - or so goes the notion.
@alive - I will accede to your request, though I will point out that I refer to your situation because it is one with which I am familiar - and in the instant case I was actually referring to your intervention up-thread in which you objected to WAHs being left out of the discussion.
@JonF - I completely reject this "life is all about easy today" meme. When wasn't it? Well, in Days of Yore, of course. But this assumes that a greater social good was served by having - let us estimate - 50% of the married population living in the seething angst of non-divorce divorce. Your line of reasoning depends critically upon what from my POV is an untenable assumption - that if divorce was "harder" things would perforce be "better." But I've seen no empirical evidence in survey data that shows that married Americans in, say, 1949 reported significantly higher rates of marital satisfaction than they do 2009 - the only difference is that in 2009 they are not trapped by the laws.
