Before the bomb, I would have sent W some message..."Thanks for last night" type of thing. I'm just leaving it alone now though.
Any thoughts? Suggestions? Should I just act like it didn't happen?
EB.
This sounds like the night before my W moved out. After that, I went pretty dark. It was a drastic change for both of us. But everything lined up right with her moving out the next day.
I wouldn't act like it didn't happen. But I wouldn't make a big deal of it either. This was a very odd time for me. My W was still in the house, I saw her everyday, but we both knew she was moving out. I did my best to be friendly, I didn't want her last days in the home to be unbearable. But I started putting up boundaries (i.e. no kissing, hugging, etc.). However, all of those boundaries came down the night before she left (because it felt right to me).
I guess what I am trying to say is there is no "right" way to do this. There are certain things that you need to do: 1. Validate W's feelings 2. GAL 3. Respect W 4. Respect yourself 5. Be a great father 6. Improve yourself 7. etc.
But beyond that, I would say be true to who you are. When I tried to do something that was obviously not me, my W would see right through it. However, when in doubt, I would say "less is more".
