I understand not wanting him to want you for the practical stuff. I felt the same way.; I didn't want BF to come back for the lifestyle we have/had together but to want me for me. But I read somewhere (Not Just Friends maybe?) that it's not fair to expect that because the lifestyle is part of marriage. Anyway, I get it.
Have you set a moving date or still waiting to find out when H will return to the states?
I guess I can kind of understand that. Maybe it would be more accurate to say that I would not want my H to come back only, or even mostly, for the practical stuff. Our marriage got to the point of being almost all stay at home, no fun, no vacations, little sex, boredom. It just got way out of kilter rather than a blend of the two.
Still don't know when H will return. I don't think he knows. Because I can't count on him, I went ahead and put a deposit down on an apartment. The landlord was willing to hold it for me until Oct 1 and then I start paying rent. I will then begin to move things over there at a leisurely pace.
