Clinging, so well put. My wife has suggested this for so long. She told me numerous times that she felt like a harlot. But I never could see it. It never made sense to me. Men caught up in self-centeredness just act like pigs. Or perhaps dogs would be more appropriate.

We use the women we love. We damage them and destroy their esteem and security. Then when they pull away we stand there like a kid being denied his candy.

My w moved out of the bedroom in 8-08 and we separated in 3-09. I can't stand it but I have learned the proper respect for my wife and that provides some peace about it. I miss our intimacy but it is not so much a focus anymore. My heart longs for real, unconditional, agape love, not just s. I know when my wife really feels loved, the s is unbelievable. Hope to be there again one day.

Best to you in your journey.

jim

M: 25 1/2 yrs
Petition Filed: Dec 08 (by WAW)
served: Jan 3, 09
Separated: 3/18/09
M: 49
W: 51
D 22
S's 14 & 16
Me: devastated & broken; W: hard and bitter