Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Dia]

Boy do I hear you!

Currently, I am speaking out on the following:

1) Parenting issues
2) Talking about OW in front of me hurts and humiliates me (this only happened once, but I piped up real fast)
3) It not being ok to snap at me just because he's grumpy about something else (low blood sugar, general stress, etc.)
4) General housework boundaries (I will help with dishes, but do your own laundry, etc.)

This is keeping our everyday interaction warm, affectionate and generally positive.

I am NOT speaking up about:

1) OW
2) R stuff in general

And yeah, this bugs me. For me, seeing the progress in the day to day relationship - which is strongly related to speaking up about 1-4 above - is motivation enough to wait on the stuff I'm not speaking up about. FOR. NOW.

Forever? Not a chance. But I can handle it for now.

So I think the DBing 'Don't Go There" paradox is about holding off temporarily while you improve your odds for The Big One.