As Retrouvaille gets closer people become afraid. When you get there Friday night, look around. You will see fear on all the faces. What are they afraid of? Some of it is the unknown, no one knows what they will spend the whole weekend doing. And secondly, I think they are afraid of change. Change could make things better, but change is unfamiliar, and the walls that have built up between you make her feel safe. If the walls come down, she will be like a mollusk without his shell! She's frightened. Try not to take it personally. It will probably get worse before you get there. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't go. In exercise classes, we always say that the exercises that are the hardest are the ones you need the most. Yes, it's hard to walk in that door, but there really is something to be gained by going.
