I think a large part of the resentment puzzle is that we resent most that which we allow to continue. We resent being complicit in our own suborning. We resent *ourselves* perhaps as much or more than the actions of our spouse or others.
This is the rock and the hard place which currently squeeze me.
I resent (the hell out of) the fact that I am getting nothing out of this R right now (or for a very long time), and that I accepted it for a long time, and that my w very specifically has often refused to listen or change because "that would be working on the R and she doesn't want to do that because she is not committed".
So the resentment is building the longer this goes on.
But the answer to the resentment is to speak out.
But speaking out seems contrary to the DB mantra of focus on yourself and be patient...
Last edited by Thinker; 09/28/0911:55 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
