I agree, bluerain, keeping tabs on my W's myspace and facebook has only hurt me more. I removed her from both after explaining why to her. She understood.

It's obsessive and will hurt. Often better not to know the details. Often they set the imagination off into even worse territory.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)