Try being alone for awhile and see if you could be comfortable with that
After 4yrs of being alone I can categorically state I am not comfortable with it. I take your point about the difference between being lonely and being alone but I really do believe I'm ready for someone new to enter my life. Only a few months ago before H announced his new baby I wouldn't have been able to contemplate that but I know I have moved on enormously since then and I'm ready to let someone else in.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15