I'm so glad you came to this board. I know it is hard to be honest and tell everything...but that is the only way to receive true help and advice that you can apply.

Excuse my ignorance, but would you explain what this mean?

The fact that she is prolonging D is a good sign, I think. My personal opinion is that once a couple has gone the route of "swinging" that it would be hard to gain the trust other their S, but I am no authority about that. I would think that she has to have a time for seeing proof from you and know that you are striving hard to overcome your sexual addiction. Perhaps your therapist would have her come to a session with you to discuss how your childhood affected your MR.

In MHO, you do need to overcome your sexual addiction before you reconcile your M or you will end up back at this point again. I have heard and read that sexual addiction is one of the hardest things in the world to beat...but not impossible. Be sure that you have a therapist that is positive and pro-marriage.

Do either of you go to church? This information helps us to know more about how to talk to you. The more you can tell us, the more we might can help. Post as often as you can, and read other threads.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!