Also...

She has asked for my prefered date to meet with a mediator next week, she sent me two dates and two times. I don't want a divorce, but feel that to impliment the "last resort" technique, I will have to go through this process.

Advice?

M: 33
W: 31
D: 11, 6; S:2
M: 11y T:15y (H.S. Sweethearts)
Seperated: 8/30/09
Met with Divorce Mediator 10/5/09
Divorce papers filed 11/13/09